Societal pressures often cause us to compare ourselves among ourselves especially where it relates to financial success. We seem to believe that people of the same age and historical background ought to more or less have the same financial standing or level of achievement at a certain point of their lives. This can’t be true because our paths differ and there are many factors that determine our life situation at any given point. I strongly believe that every individual soul is here for a unique purpose . This is the intense sense of inner knowing that you are destined for bigger and better things despite your current situation. Somewhere in the inner most parts of your being you know that there is meaning behind your existence. You somehow know that there is something significant you must accomplish before you return to the land of no form. Keeping this in mind, most people live their lives constantly working towards fulfilling that purpose or achieving that child hood dream. The problem arises however when things get tough and it appears as though all your efforts to better your life are proving futile. This is when you start comparing yourself to your so called successful peers and start wondering if there is something you are not doing right. This is when you get frustrated because people you started with are already seeing the fruits of their labor while you are still climbing what seems to be an endless mountain. This is a very painful experience because it questions your abilities and your self-worth. I can even go as far as to say some have ended their own lives because of this reflection. Is it possible though that those people had the inner power to overcome their challenges but they gave up because they lacked the knowledge needed to look at their situation from the right perspective?
In 2 Corinthians 10:12 Paul writes:
We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.
According to Paul, it is not wise for us to compare ourselves among ourselves. Even though bad decisions may have brought us where we are , if you have real faith in God then your life situation no matter how bad it seems is most likely the result of His divine hand. The bible says “The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord”. Paul also in Romans 8:28 says all things work together for those that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose.
It boggles my mind every time I ponder on the implications of the below biblical text:
Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. (Matthew 4:1)
The wilderness experience was obviously not a pleasant one for Jesus but the bible reveals that he was led by the Spirit to go there in the first place. From this we can conclude that this unpleasant experience though uncomfortable was in fact a critical event in the greater scheme of his divine purpose. Everything happens for a reason and your current hardships are part of the bigger plan for your life. God measures the weight of our problems and only gives to each person according to their capacity to withstand. God has allowed certain challenges in your life because you have the required specs in you to handle it. It is obviously not easy but it is in you to overcome that situation even though it looks impossible right now. It is a matter of trusting God even though things don’t make sense.
Planning for your future is an essential part of success but planning can easily turn into worry and anxiety when things don’t happen as planned. When you have done all you could do then the rest is up to God. If it is not happening yet then chances are you are not ready or certain things are not yet in place for you to enter into your domain of rule. The title of this post is “trusting the timing of your life” because you will not achieve your dreams when your friends achieve theirs. You will achieve your dreams when God’s appointed time comes. If you are doing you part by working on your dream as often as you can then you need not worry about when your breakthrough will come. Jesus used many parables to explain the Kingdom of Heaven and the following is very suitable for the discussion at hand:
He also said, “This is what the kingdom of God is like. A man scatters seed on the ground. Night and day, whether he sleeps or gets up, the seed sprouts and grows, though he does not know how. All by itself the soil produces grain—first the stalk, then the head, then the full kernel in the head. As soon as the grain is ripe, he puts the sickle to it, because the harvest has come.”
There is much that can be deducted from this text but what I want to highlight is the point about learning to trust God as we walk towards our destiny. The man scatters the seed but does not really understand how germination takes place. All He needs to do is plant and cultivate and leave the rest to nature. In the same light, God says do your part by practicing and preparing and leave the rest to Me. Another noteworthy point from the text is about the gradualness of growth. The full kernel in the head does not appear immediately. The stalk appears first and from that point more growth takes place. You need to be willing to start small because every big thing you see today was once a small thing. Also when you work on your skills through practice, progress is not immediately evident. You cannot be a master overnight which is why focus and patience are prerequisites for true success.
In closing: Trust the timing of your life and believe that your dreams will come true at the right time. When you begin to trust God then worry and fear will dissipate. Your stress levels will also decrease and you will start enjoying the present moment and appreciating the simple things in life. This will even have a positive impact on your overall health. It is this positive energy that will draw better things into your life and gradually things will start falling into place. The pieces of the puzzle of your life will begin to form a clearer picture.